Yesterday my daughter refused to go to school - too miserable to go. This has been building off and on for a couple of years. This is the critical (and horrible) teenage time when friends become all important and there aren't any. The constant forming and reforming of cliques and gangs takes its toll even if no one is grabbing her by the shoulders and banging her up against a wall.
I don't know how to deal with mutiny. When Corporal Deadline blows the whistle I fix the bayonet, walk to the firing step and heave myself over the top of the trench and start running through no man's land. To refuse is annhilation - I do it if for no other reason than conditioning. And my memory is probably faulty but it felt like that at school when I was a kid - I just got on with it - even the unpleasant stuff, stayed out of trouble but refusal was not an option. We could bully her into going to school but that would be temporary. It has gone past bribes.
This is what it means to live in Blairite (nearly Brownite) Britain. Now somehow we have to find the time to go to the school and have a meeting with the student support unit. To tell a stressed member of staff that our daughter is too stressed to come to school. Only that now its mental stress rather than physical stress. Someone somewhere will have to draft a plan and log it. We will apply to have her transferred to another local school. The overworked and stressed appeal board must listen to it because every parent has a choice. Then they will turn us down because there aren't any school places. And we will appeal because we have no alternative. And persuade the GP to refer us to the paediatrician, and persuade the paediatrician to write a letter in support of our appeal. At some point I will try to involve the local MP who is in opposition so will jump on the case as an example of the failure of the education system. And the piece of grit will continue to irritate and grow until the system rearranges to get rid of the friction. But my daughter isn't a piece of grit - she's a person - and she deserves better than this.
Its a relief to have to put this Kafkaesque world all to one side. And walk towards the sound of the guns. If you understand this say a prayer for us.